1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,389 Hello everyone! Today I'm going to talk 2 00:00:05,069 --> 00:00:14,490 about adoption and prophet muhammad's 3 00:00:09,389 --> 00:00:17,640 marriage to Zainab. To begin there are five topics 4 00:00:14,490 --> 00:00:20,130 I want to discuss how 5 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:22,830 Prophet Muhammad married Zainab. How adoption 6 00:00:20,130 --> 00:00:25,439 got abolished. Ancient cultures and 7 00:00:22,830 --> 00:00:28,320 adoption. Difficulties with adopting in 8 00:00:25,439 --> 00:00:31,619 Islam. Why did Prophet Muhammad marry 9 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:34,380 his daughter-in-law? Did Muhammad fall in 10 00:00:31,619 --> 00:00:38,100 love with Zainab? And how adoption became 11 00:00:34,380 --> 00:00:40,320 forbidden with Zaid and Zainab. The 12 00:00:38,100 --> 00:00:43,559 first topic is ancient cultures and 13 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:45,270 adoption. Looking at history, we know adoption 14 00:00:43,559 --> 00:00:46,890 was a common practice in many cultures, 15 00:00:45,270 --> 00:00:49,170 it's something good to do you know 16 00:00:46,890 --> 00:00:50,910 adopting someone is like making them 17 00:00:49,170 --> 00:00:53,370 your son or daughter they become part of 18 00:00:50,910 --> 00:00:54,570 your family. They take your name, they inherit 19 00:00:53,370 --> 00:00:56,789 from you they become you know they 20 00:00:54,570 --> 00:00:58,500 become part of the family. 21 00:00:56,789 --> 00:01:01,020 There's many examples - Ancient 22 00:00:58,500 --> 00:01:03,239 Roman culture, Elite Romans used to 23 00:01:01,020 --> 00:01:04,019 adopt children and they became part of 24 00:01:03,239 --> 00:01:07,080 the family. 25 00:01:04,019 --> 00:01:09,000 Sometimes the the adopted son would even 26 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:12,090 have a higher status than the natural 27 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:14,369 born son. This is because the adopted 28 00:01:12,090 --> 00:01:16,320 son was chosen, whereas the 29 00:01:14,369 --> 00:01:19,619 natural son was just born with however 30 00:01:16,320 --> 00:01:22,590 he was. A very famous example is Julius 31 00:01:19,619 --> 00:01:24,840 Caesar and Cleopatra. They had a child 32 00:01:22,590 --> 00:01:27,390 and Julius also had an 33 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:28,740 adopted son. Guess who 34 00:01:27,390 --> 00:01:32,070 became the next leader of the Roman 35 00:01:28,740 --> 00:01:35,130 Empire? The adopted son. The adopted son 36 00:01:32,070 --> 00:01:37,500 became Caesar Augustus the first emperor 37 00:01:35,130 --> 00:01:39,600 of the Roman Empire. This is because he 38 00:01:37,500 --> 00:01:42,360 was adopted by Julius and he was given 39 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:43,580 the Empire. So I mean 40 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:46,280 this is kind of amazing 41 00:01:43,580 --> 00:01:48,470 that this is how you know in 42 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:49,760 ancient culture adopted sons and 43 00:01:48,470 --> 00:01:53,060 daughters were treated they were treated 44 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:55,340 like your own child you know and they 45 00:01:53,060 --> 00:01:58,370 would get everything that the 46 00:01:55,340 --> 00:02:00,590 that parents would have - the customers, the 47 00:01:58,370 --> 00:02:02,090 respect, the privilege, the family name, you 48 00:02:00,590 --> 00:02:04,490 know they were given the honor of being 49 00:02:02,090 --> 00:02:06,830 like an actual child. Infact 50 00:02:04,490 --> 00:02:08,869 Julius Caesar his 51 00:02:06,830 --> 00:02:11,660 adopted son became Emperor not his 52 00:02:08,869 --> 00:02:13,430 natural son. The same thing in Pre-Islamic 53 00:02:11,660 --> 00:02:16,250 Arabia, you know sometimes pre-Islamic 54 00:02:13,430 --> 00:02:18,650 Arabia "Jahiliyah" the period of 55 00:02:16,250 --> 00:02:20,180 ignorance as it's called is sometimes 56 00:02:18,650 --> 00:02:22,130 look down upon, but there was many good 57 00:02:20,180 --> 00:02:26,209 things in Pre-Islamic Arabia, for 58 00:02:22,130 --> 00:02:28,520 example Tabari mentions that in 59 00:02:26,209 --> 00:02:30,230 accordance with the Arabic custom of 60 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:33,950 adoption at the time 61 00:02:30,230 --> 00:02:36,380 Zaid ibn Haritha was thereafter known as 62 00:02:33,950 --> 00:02:39,170 Zaid Ibn Muhammad and was a freed man 63 00:02:36,380 --> 00:02:42,080 regarded socially and legally as 64 00:02:39,170 --> 00:02:43,940 Muhammad's son. So before 65 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:47,240 Islamic law changed with with the 66 00:02:43,940 --> 00:02:48,680 marriage of Zainab and Prophet Muhammad, adoption 67 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:50,600 was a very normal process in 68 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:52,910 Pre-Islamic Arabia so much so that they would 69 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:55,070 take the name of.. You know Zaid was 70 00:02:52,910 --> 00:02:56,540 actually Zaid the son of Muhammad. 71 00:02:55,070 --> 00:02:58,820 Muhammad actually adopted him and he took 72 00:02:56,540 --> 00:02:59,720 his name, his family name. And why did this 73 00:02:58,820 --> 00:03:03,680 all change? 74 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:06,050 We'll get to that. I want to talk about 75 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:09,260 practical difficulties with adoption 76 00:03:06,050 --> 00:03:12,920 in Islam. Yusa Gomaa in an article 77 00:03:09,260 --> 00:03:17,930 titled "Why Adoption and Fostering Must 78 00:03:12,920 --> 00:03:19,280 be Our Muslim Duty" in April 2016 wrote: So 79 00:03:17,930 --> 00:03:22,760 basically she was writing an article 80 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:26,480 about adoption in Islam and how 81 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:28,220 difficult it is. She did some 82 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:30,620 interviews and research and she 83 00:03:28,220 --> 00:03:33,080 says, when I asked whether Muslim 84 00:03:30,620 --> 00:03:35,989 children frequently came into the system, 85 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:38,120 the adoption system, she was told that 86 00:03:35,989 --> 00:03:40,459 they did but they were amongst the most 87 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:42,080 difficult children to match into homes 88 00:03:40,459 --> 00:03:44,840 because of the unique religious and 89 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:46,670 cultural needs. I made similar inquiries 90 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:48,470 in Michigan, Washington, Indiana 91 00:03:46,670 --> 00:03:50,989 and Wisconsin only to hear the same 92 00:03:48,470 --> 00:03:52,640 response that it was there with the most 93 00:03:50,989 --> 00:03:55,220 difficult children to match. 94 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:57,950 It's very hard to for a Muslim family to 95 00:03:55,220 --> 00:03:59,810 adopt and and let's discuss why. The 96 00:03:57,950 --> 00:04:01,700 first reason is because of Mahram 97 00:03:59,810 --> 00:04:04,940 issues - mahram is basically the laws of 98 00:04:01,700 --> 00:04:06,290 blood meaning when you're mahram with 99 00:04:04,940 --> 00:04:08,450 someone you're allowed to be alone with 100 00:04:06,290 --> 00:04:10,220 them, you can hug them, kiss them.. like 101 00:04:08,450 --> 00:04:12,260 you know you're mahram to your mother, 102 00:04:10,220 --> 00:04:13,700 mahram to your father, you know you can 103 00:04:12,260 --> 00:04:14,870 basically be alone 104 00:04:13,700 --> 00:04:16,579 with them, they're like family members 105 00:04:14,870 --> 00:04:20,060 and you cannot marry your marahim (mahrams). 106 00:04:16,579 --> 00:04:23,240 The thing is when you when you adopt - 107 00:04:20,060 --> 00:04:25,850 that child is not mahram to you, so if 108 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:27,950 you adopt a girl, like if I adopt my daughter 109 00:04:25,850 --> 00:04:29,600 I wouldn't be able to be alone with her 110 00:04:27,950 --> 00:04:31,430 I can actually marry her. 111 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:33,620 It's not considered an actual 112 00:04:31,430 --> 00:04:35,570 adoption, because adoption is not allowed, so 113 00:04:33,620 --> 00:04:37,070 what would happen is that girl would 114 00:04:35,570 --> 00:04:38,510 just be a part of the family, but 115 00:04:37,070 --> 00:04:41,990 would kind of be like a stranger in the 116 00:04:38,510 --> 00:04:42,560 family. As well how can you get around 117 00:04:41,990 --> 00:04:44,810 this? 118 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:47,840 I actually know you one individual who 119 00:04:44,810 --> 00:04:49,790 wanted to adopt a child, one family 120 00:04:47,840 --> 00:04:54,020 and so what they did was in order to 121 00:04:49,790 --> 00:04:56,720 adopt this little boy the mom 122 00:04:54,020 --> 00:04:58,610 tried to, I mean like the adopted mom 123 00:04:56,720 --> 00:05:00,470 tried to take some you know.. some sort of 124 00:04:58,610 --> 00:05:02,060 herbal medicines to try to get some 125 00:05:00,470 --> 00:05:03,830 breast milk so they could feed the baby 126 00:05:02,060 --> 00:05:06,560 because you can become a "foster mom" in 127 00:05:03,830 --> 00:05:09,560 Islam and the the child would be mahram 128 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:11,660 to you. Because this didn't actually 129 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:15,470 work, the second option 130 00:05:11,660 --> 00:05:17,900 they did was to get get her sister to 131 00:05:15,470 --> 00:05:19,390 breastfeed the child. Even though the child was 132 00:05:17,900 --> 00:05:21,490 you know done breastfeeding and 133 00:05:19,390 --> 00:05:24,100 obviously was a foster child that wasn't 134 00:05:21,490 --> 00:05:26,020 being adopted, by her sister 135 00:05:24,100 --> 00:05:28,390 breastfeeding it became kind of like a 136 00:05:26,020 --> 00:05:30,340 relative, and she became like an auntie 137 00:05:28,390 --> 00:05:31,990 to the child. So this is kind of like the 138 00:05:30,340 --> 00:05:33,820 workarounds you have to go to in order to 139 00:05:31,990 --> 00:05:35,950 have an actual child in your family 140 00:05:33,820 --> 00:05:38,830 that's related you or "so-called 141 00:05:35,950 --> 00:05:40,900 related" to you. And you can imagine how 142 00:05:38,830 --> 00:05:43,240 difficult is and how problematic it is, 143 00:05:40,900 --> 00:05:44,980 and so many Muslims, they don't want to 144 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:46,300 because when the child grows up 145 00:05:44,980 --> 00:05:47,890 What would they do? They don't 146 00:05:46,300 --> 00:05:50,110 always have these workarounds available. 147 00:05:47,890 --> 00:05:52,600 Very strange that you have to do 148 00:05:50,110 --> 00:05:54,070 this. As well the adopted son or daughter 149 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:56,320 doesn't take the name of the family the 150 00:05:54,070 --> 00:05:58,930 family name, The adopted son has to be known 151 00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:00,160 as, this child has his own name and 152 00:05:58,930 --> 00:06:02,860 we'll get to the story of how this 153 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:04,900 happened, but basically this is a very 154 00:06:02,860 --> 00:06:09,430 serious thing in Islam so serious that 155 00:06:04,900 --> 00:06:11,530 it's punishable by hell. I'm 156 00:06:09,430 --> 00:06:13,630 going to read a hadith narrated in Bukhari 157 00:06:11,530 --> 00:06:15,370 and Muslim. it was narrated from Abu Dharr 158 00:06:13,630 --> 00:06:16,930 may Allah be pleased with him 159 00:06:15,370 --> 00:06:19,240 that he heard the prophet peace and 160 00:06:16,930 --> 00:06:21,460 blessings be upon him say "There's no man 161 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:24,250 who knowingly calls himself after 162 00:06:21,460 --> 00:06:26,470 someone other than his father but he has 163 00:06:24,250 --> 00:06:29,530 committed kufr (disbelief). Whoever 164 00:06:26,470 --> 00:06:31,810 claims to belong to people of whom he 165 00:06:29,530 --> 00:06:35,770 has no ties of blood, let him take his 166 00:06:31,810 --> 00:06:37,810 place in hell. This is a very serious point. 167 00:06:35,770 --> 00:06:41,680 Taking a child, giving a child your name, 168 00:06:37,810 --> 00:06:43,300 it's strangely serious.. It's very strange 169 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:46,990 you know that a child cannot take your 170 00:06:43,300 --> 00:06:49,810 family name. The adopted son or daughter does 171 00:06:46,990 --> 00:06:51,850 not get inheritance, thats another thing. The 172 00:06:49,810 --> 00:06:53,890 rules of inheritance are fixed in the 173 00:06:51,850 --> 00:06:56,530 Quran - that this person gets this much. 174 00:06:53,890 --> 00:06:58,120 This person gets this much.. Her son gets you know one 175 00:06:56,530 --> 00:07:00,460 amount, and daughters would get a half 176 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:01,840 of what the son gets, but the adopted child 177 00:07:00,460 --> 00:07:04,150 will not get anything. 178 00:07:01,840 --> 00:07:05,530 Now there is one-third allowance that you 179 00:07:04,150 --> 00:07:08,380 can be flexible with, so you would have 180 00:07:05,530 --> 00:07:10,840 to specify that from the one-third, give my 181 00:07:08,380 --> 00:07:12,340 adopted son this amount, otherwise an adopted 182 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:14,590 child would not get any in 183 00:07:12,340 --> 00:07:16,180 inheritance from the family, which is again 184 00:07:14,590 --> 00:07:19,120 quite a sad thing. Compare this to the 185 00:07:16,180 --> 00:07:20,860 Pre-Islamic method that the 186 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,780 child would inherit, would be basically 187 00:07:20,860 --> 00:07:24,940 would be like an actual child, Does it 188 00:07:22,780 --> 00:07:26,380 seem like Islam actually raised the rights 189 00:07:24,940 --> 00:07:27,610 Increase the rights of 190 00:07:26,380 --> 00:07:29,620 adopted children? No it actually took 191 00:07:27,610 --> 00:07:32,800 away rights that they had before 192 00:07:29,620 --> 00:07:34,600 Islam, and many Muslims are not aware 193 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:36,070 that this whole thing actually 194 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,870 happened because of 195 00:07:36,070 --> 00:07:41,050 Prophet Muhammad wanting to marry Zainab. 196 00:07:37,870 --> 00:07:43,210 Now why did Prophet Muhammad marry his daughter-in-law? 197 00:07:41,050 --> 00:07:45,790 This was something that 198 00:07:43,210 --> 00:07:49,270 was considered taboo. Forbidden in 199 00:07:45,790 --> 00:07:51,040 Pre-Islamic society. So much so that 200 00:07:49,270 --> 00:07:53,410 Prophet Muhammad was scared to tell 201 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:57,550 people that he was going to marry Zainab. 202 00:07:53,410 --> 00:08:00,610 It says in the Quran Chapter 33 Verse 37 203 00:07:57,550 --> 00:08:03,310 "And you feared the people, while Allah has 204 00:08:00,610 --> 00:08:05,410 more right that you fear him." Meaning 205 00:08:03,310 --> 00:08:07,060 Prophet Muhammad was scared about this, 206 00:08:05,410 --> 00:08:07,810 he was scared to do this, but he wanted 207 00:08:07,060 --> 00:08:11,380 to do it. 208 00:08:07,810 --> 00:08:14,710 Zaid was just like Muhammad's 209 00:08:11,380 --> 00:08:16,690 son. He was his adopted son, and he was 210 00:08:14,710 --> 00:08:18,820 part of the family, he loved Prophet Muhammad very 211 00:08:16,690 --> 00:08:21,220 much so and Prophet Muhammad loved Zaid 212 00:08:18,820 --> 00:08:22,810 really much as well. Infact Zaid is 213 00:08:21,220 --> 00:08:24,700 the only one mentioned, 214 00:08:22,810 --> 00:08:26,950 the only companion mentioned by name in 215 00:08:24,700 --> 00:08:28,810 the Quran. He has that high a status and 216 00:08:26,950 --> 00:08:33,400 that much love Prophet Muhammad had for him. 217 00:08:28,810 --> 00:08:35,740 So Prophet Muhammad got Zaid married to 218 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:37,599 Zainab, the the marriage lasted less than 219 00:08:35,740 --> 00:08:40,900 two years, they had some troubles. 220 00:08:37,599 --> 00:08:45,910 She was an attractive young lady of 221 00:08:40,900 --> 00:08:48,010 the tribe of Quraish. Aisha said, "from 222 00:08:45,910 --> 00:08:48,670 amongst the wives of the Prophet 223 00:08:48,010 --> 00:08:52,150 Muhammad, 224 00:08:48,670 --> 00:08:53,770 Zainab was my peer in beauty and in love 225 00:08:52,150 --> 00:08:55,480 that she's received from the Prophet, and this is 226 00:08:53,770 --> 00:08:57,339 narrated in Bukhari. So it's well known she 227 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:59,709 was a beautiful young lady 228 00:08:57,339 --> 00:09:04,600 she got married around the age of 35. In 229 00:08:59,709 --> 00:09:07,000 fact, the law of hijab (head covering for women) was 230 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:09,370 revealed on the on the wedding night of 231 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:11,529 Prophet Muhammad to Zainab, so before that 232 00:09:09,370 --> 00:09:13,870 there was no law of hijab. When he married Zainab 233 00:09:11,529 --> 00:09:18,220 the same night the law of hijab was 234 00:09:13,870 --> 00:09:20,829 revealed. The story goes that 235 00:09:18,220 --> 00:09:22,209 when the "iddah", the waiting period of Zainab 236 00:09:20,829 --> 00:09:24,400 was over, meaning Zaid had divorced Zainab, 237 00:09:22,209 --> 00:09:26,140 and there was a waiting period in 238 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:27,700 Islam to know whether.. you know she's 239 00:09:26,140 --> 00:09:30,310 pregnant or not and once the waiting 240 00:09:27,700 --> 00:09:32,079 period was over, Zaid went to Zainab 241 00:09:30,310 --> 00:09:33,610 and told her that Prophet Muhammad has sent a 242 00:09:32,079 --> 00:09:37,420 proposal of marriage for you. 243 00:09:33,610 --> 00:09:38,530 Zainab replied "I won't to anything until I 244 00:09:37,420 --> 00:09:41,230 talk to my lord (meaning God)" 245 00:09:38,530 --> 00:09:42,490 She went to pray and while 246 00:09:41,230 --> 00:09:45,100 she was praying the Quran was revealed 247 00:09:42,490 --> 00:09:47,530 and then the Messenger of Allah came and 248 00:09:45,100 --> 00:09:50,079 entered upon her without any formalities. 249 00:09:47,530 --> 00:09:51,940 And this is narrated and Sahih Muslim. So 250 00:09:50,079 --> 00:09:54,040 basically she was praying, she was asking 251 00:09:51,940 --> 00:09:55,480 she's asking God should I marry him? 252 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:57,040 Maybe she was worried.. you know .. what 253 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:58,900 would people say about me, you know what's 254 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:01,390 gonna happen if I marry 255 00:09:58,900 --> 00:10:03,400 this man who was my 256 00:10:01,390 --> 00:10:05,800 father-in-law essentially. That you know 257 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:07,060 she was she was like a daughter to him 258 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:08,620 right? So she maybe she was thinking 259 00:10:07,060 --> 00:10:10,240 about this, and while she was thinking 260 00:10:08,620 --> 00:10:12,280 about this and praying Prophet Muhammad 261 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:15,730 walked right into a home and said "I'm 262 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:17,110 your husband!" It's interesting why was there 263 00:10:15,730 --> 00:10:19,600 a need for Prophet Muhammad to 264 00:10:17,110 --> 00:10:22,900 demonstrate this rule of marrying you 265 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:24,010 know ex wife of your adopted son. This 266 00:10:22,900 --> 00:10:26,350 is something that really needed 267 00:10:24,010 --> 00:10:27,880 demonstrating? Why would you even want to 268 00:10:26,350 --> 00:10:31,360 marry your daughter-in-law? 269 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:34,060 I mean my my father and my wife.. He 270 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:35,800 treats my wife like, he used to treat my wife 271 00:10:34,060 --> 00:10:37,060 like his daughter she was like you know 272 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:37,780 you should call her "beti", like your 273 00:10:37,060 --> 00:10:40,720 daughter (in Hindi). 274 00:10:37,780 --> 00:10:42,720 It's just weird and strange like 275 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:44,550 why would you want to marry 276 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:46,019 someone 277 00:10:44,550 --> 00:10:48,540 that's like your daughter? Do people 278 00:10:46,019 --> 00:10:50,490 do this, is this a common thing that Allah 279 00:10:48,540 --> 00:10:54,420 needed to reveal a verse about this and tell 280 00:10:50,490 --> 00:10:57,480 everybody for ever and ever? 281 00:10:54,420 --> 00:10:59,850 Now... 282 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:01,980 On one Islamic site it says the reason for the 283 00:10:59,850 --> 00:11:03,899 revelation of these verses was that 284 00:11:01,980 --> 00:11:06,060 Allah wanted to prescribe a law for all 285 00:11:03,899 --> 00:11:07,920 believers that adopted sons did not come 286 00:11:06,060 --> 00:11:09,600 under the same rulings as real sons 287 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:11,910 in any way and there's nothing wrong with 288 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:13,649 those who had adopted them 289 00:11:11,910 --> 00:11:15,959 marrying the wives after 290 00:11:13,649 --> 00:11:18,060 divorce. So basically Allah wanted to 291 00:11:15,959 --> 00:11:20,730 ensure that that all the Muslims would 292 00:11:18,060 --> 00:11:23,519 know for ever and ever until the day of judgment 293 00:11:20,730 --> 00:11:26,220 that if you know one day your adopted 294 00:11:23,519 --> 00:11:27,899 son has a wife, and you know he divorces 295 00:11:26,220 --> 00:11:29,279 his wife, you can marry her 296 00:11:27,899 --> 00:11:31,410 you know.. Just in case you know she might be an 297 00:11:29,279 --> 00:11:33,209 attractive lady, young lady, you never know 298 00:11:31,410 --> 00:11:35,250 maybe you want to marry her. You know 299 00:11:33,209 --> 00:11:37,589 what's the best way of showing this is for 300 00:11:35,250 --> 00:11:39,629 Muhammad to marry his own "daughter-in-law" 301 00:11:37,589 --> 00:11:41,670 who was you know this attractive young lady 302 00:11:39,629 --> 00:11:43,410 So you know what, now we know, I mean this 303 00:11:41,670 --> 00:11:45,420 is great, I mean this is a great 304 00:11:43,410 --> 00:11:47,579 thing, you know if it ever happens again. Now, 305 00:11:45,420 --> 00:11:49,170 did Muhammad fall in love with Zainab? 306 00:11:47,579 --> 00:11:50,579 This is an interesting story. I always used to 307 00:11:49,170 --> 00:11:53,610 think this was a completely you know 308 00:11:50,579 --> 00:11:54,930 weak hadith and fabricated story, but after 309 00:11:53,610 --> 00:11:56,399 looking into it and doing some research 310 00:11:54,930 --> 00:11:58,439 i found out that 311 00:11:56,399 --> 00:12:01,649 this is actually considered a pretty 312 00:11:58,439 --> 00:12:04,529 solid story. The earliest tafsir 313 00:12:01,649 --> 00:12:06,480 Ibn Ishaq doesn't say 314 00:12:04,529 --> 00:12:09,240 unfortunately mention much 315 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:10,769 about the wives of Prophet Muhammad, but the 316 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:13,350 next one that we have which is 317 00:12:10,769 --> 00:12:17,519 Ibn Saad who died in 230 AH 318 00:12:13,350 --> 00:12:19,230 mentions this story as follows: So Prophet 319 00:12:17,519 --> 00:12:22,170 Muhammad went to visit Zaid and Zaid 320 00:12:19,230 --> 00:12:25,319 wasn't home, so then Zainab answered the door 321 00:12:22,170 --> 00:12:26,910 And she said Zaid is not 322 00:12:25,319 --> 00:12:28,949 here, why don't you come in? Prophet 323 00:12:26,910 --> 00:12:30,420 Muhammad you know turned away and he 324 00:12:28,949 --> 00:12:32,490 muttered something.. He said something 325 00:12:30,420 --> 00:12:35,550 under his breath any left. Now when Zaid 326 00:12:32,490 --> 00:12:37,379 came back, Zainab mentioned what 327 00:12:35,550 --> 00:12:40,110 happened and she said that Prophet Muhammad 328 00:12:37,379 --> 00:12:42,130 came and Zaid asked her 329 00:12:40,110 --> 00:12:44,170 Why didn't you let him in? And 330 00:12:42,130 --> 00:12:47,140 she said I did invite him in but 331 00:12:44,170 --> 00:12:49,480 he turned away and he said "subhnalahil adheem 332 00:12:47,140 --> 00:12:52,390 subhana mussarriful quloob" 333 00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:54,160 which basically means you know 334 00:12:52,390 --> 00:12:56,320 Glory to Allah The Great, 335 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:57,910 The one who changes the hearts. 336 00:12:56,320 --> 00:13:00,640 So Zaid, he understood what this meant and he said 337 00:12:57,910 --> 00:13:01,660 that Prophet Muhammad had feelings 338 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:04,750 for Zainab, that he was attracted 339 00:13:01,660 --> 00:13:06,800 to her, so immediately he went to 340 00:13:04,750 --> 00:13:08,499 Prophet Muhammad. 341 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:11,139 (excuse me) 342 00:13:08,499 --> 00:13:13,509 Zaid 343 00:13:11,139 --> 00:13:15,699 had some issues with his marriage 344 00:13:13,509 --> 00:13:18,279 to Zainab, it seems like Zainab was not happy 345 00:13:15,699 --> 00:13:20,319 marrying Zaid who was an ex-slave basically. 346 00:13:18,279 --> 00:13:24,099 And she wanted someone of higher status. 347 00:13:20,319 --> 00:13:26,139 Now the interesting thing is that it 348 00:13:24,099 --> 00:13:27,639 seemed that Prophet Muhammad had 349 00:13:26,139 --> 00:13:29,889 liked her from this story and this was 350 00:13:27,639 --> 00:13:33,459 mentioned in Ibn Saad, so after this 351 00:13:29,889 --> 00:13:35,319 happened, Zaid asked for permission to divorce 352 00:13:33,459 --> 00:13:39,639 Zainab, he no longer wanted to be married 353 00:13:35,319 --> 00:13:41,499 to Zainab. He couldn't bear after this 354 00:13:39,639 --> 00:13:42,579 to be married to Zainab and he asked Prophet Muhammad 355 00:13:41,499 --> 00:13:44,829 over and over again 356 00:13:42,579 --> 00:13:47,049 can i divorce her? And Prophet Muhammad said "No" and 357 00:13:44,829 --> 00:13:49,419 this is the verse came in: "And you fear 358 00:13:47,049 --> 00:13:51,699 the people while Allah has more has more 359 00:13:49,419 --> 00:13:55,899 right that you fear him." So the verse was 360 00:13:51,699 --> 00:13:58,059 revealed discussing this. Eventually, Zaid 361 00:13:55,899 --> 00:14:00,939 couldn't take it and he divorced Zainab, and then 362 00:13:58,059 --> 00:14:05,469 as you know Allah revealed the verse 363 00:14:00,939 --> 00:14:07,479 that Muhammda got married to Zainab. 364 00:14:05,469 --> 00:14:09,789 Now is this an authentic story? 365 00:14:07,479 --> 00:14:13,329 The earliest earliest reference we 366 00:14:09,789 --> 00:14:15,220 have is Ibn Saad and as I mentioned in 210 AH. 367 00:14:13,329 --> 00:14:17,679 who mentioned this 368 00:14:15,220 --> 00:14:18,939 story. And then Muqatil ibn Sulayman 369 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:20,739 was actually the earliest tafsir even before 370 00:14:18,939 --> 00:14:22,749 Ibn Saad mentioned the story, this is in 150 AH. 371 00:14:20,739 --> 00:14:23,439 starts even before Ibn Saad mentioned 372 00:14:22,749 --> 00:14:25,239 the story 373 00:14:23,439 --> 00:14:27,009 this is 150 AH. 374 00:14:25,239 --> 00:14:29,019 But this story 375 00:14:27,009 --> 00:14:33,189 This tafsir is not considered reliable. 376 00:14:29,019 --> 00:14:34,509 However Tabari who died in 310 AH 377 00:14:33,189 --> 00:14:36,699 is considered the greatest 378 00:14:34,509 --> 00:14:38,949 scholars of tafsir, he is the most 379 00:14:36,699 --> 00:14:41,409 Orthodox The most authentic, he's 380 00:14:38,949 --> 00:14:44,019 considered an encyclopedia of tafsir, the 381 00:14:41,409 --> 00:14:46,539 bastion of sunni tafsirs, 382 00:14:44,019 --> 00:14:49,149 and he mentions this story that 383 00:14:46,539 --> 00:14:51,729 Prophet Muhammad had 384 00:14:49,149 --> 00:14:54,399 feelings for Zainab. He mentions that this 385 00:14:51,729 --> 00:14:58,359 and he narrated this from Ibn Zaid and Qatada 386 00:14:54,399 --> 00:15:00,819 who was a student of Ibn Abbas. Also other 387 00:14:58,359 --> 00:15:04,089 than Tabari, Tafsir Samarqandi 388 00:15:00,819 --> 00:15:05,949 Thalabi, Zamakhshari, Fakhr al-Din al-Razi 389 00:15:04,089 --> 00:15:08,349 they all mentioned the same story that 390 00:15:05,949 --> 00:15:10,359 you know and why is a big problem? The 391 00:15:08,349 --> 00:15:11,270 problem is, it's a big problem because it 392 00:15:10,359 --> 00:15:12,650 seems that 393 00:15:11,270 --> 00:15:14,750 Prophet Muhammad you know he had 394 00:15:12,650 --> 00:15:15,980 feelings for someone, and then you know 395 00:15:14,750 --> 00:15:17,930 what the next thing that happened was he 396 00:15:15,980 --> 00:15:20,390 ended up marrying her, and Allah married her to him 397 00:15:17,930 --> 00:15:23,750 it seems troubling . 398 00:15:20,390 --> 00:15:25,670 Ot is also interesting that in the 399 00:15:23,750 --> 00:15:26,570 later centuries 4th 5th and 6th 400 00:15:25,670 --> 00:15:29,450 centuries 401 00:15:26,570 --> 00:15:32,090 this story became very very frowed upon 402 00:15:29,450 --> 00:15:33,710 and you know Ibn Kathir even says 403 00:15:32,090 --> 00:15:36,440 that some of the earlier books have 404 00:15:33,710 --> 00:15:38,780 reports we wouldn't rather not mention. 405 00:15:36,440 --> 00:15:41,840 an Ibn Hajr who died in 406 00:15:38,780 --> 00:15:44,540 852 AH 407 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:47,000 doesn't even mention this story. Later on, 408 00:15:44,540 --> 00:15:48,620 scholars went even further to say this 409 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:51,230 early story is a complete fabrication 410 00:15:48,620 --> 00:15:53,090 and you always made by the evil 411 00:15:51,230 --> 00:15:54,890 orientalists, the conspiracy 412 00:15:53,090 --> 00:15:58,340 theories, and all of this is mentioned by 413 00:15:54,890 --> 00:16:01,250 Uasir Qadhi and is in Seerah lecture that 414 00:15:58,340 --> 00:16:03,890 all of these 415 00:16:01,250 --> 00:16:05,840 references which I mentioned. So to 416 00:16:03,890 --> 00:16:09,620 conclude this story and this video 417 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:12,230 Adoption became forbidden after 418 00:16:09,620 --> 00:16:15,170 Prophet Muhammad.. I mean after Zaid divorced Zainab 419 00:16:12,230 --> 00:16:16,280 because before that 420 00:16:15,170 --> 00:16:18,500 they used to call him 421 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:19,880 Zaid ibn Muhammad. 422 00:16:18,500 --> 00:16:22,160 And this was something that was considered completely 423 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:23,660 taboo to marry your adopted son's ex-wife 424 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:25,580 basically marry your 425 00:16:23,660 --> 00:16:26,900 daughter-in-law was 426 00:16:25,580 --> 00:16:28,250 considered taboo because his son was 427 00:16:26,900 --> 00:16:31,040 considered like a real son 428 00:16:28,250 --> 00:16:33,800 so in order to to to make this you know 429 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:36,440 marriage not as controversial, 430 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:37,820 adoption had become forbidden and you 431 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:40,880 were not allowed to call anyone by the 432 00:16:37,820 --> 00:16:42,620 name. So in order to marry Zainab 433 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:45,320 all of the goodness that came from 434 00:16:42,620 --> 00:16:47,030 adoption was completely eliminated. 435 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:49,400 I mean why else would it be that 436 00:16:47,030 --> 00:16:51,800 adoption was eliminated at this 437 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,510 timely point. When you know Prophet 438 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:54,800 Muhammad wanted to marry Zainab. 439 00:16:53,510 --> 00:16:56,570 It's interesting that the both of them 440 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:59,360 happen, both of these things happen at 441 00:16:56,570 --> 00:17:02,390 the same time. It's also interesting that 442 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:04,670 you know if adoption is forbidden now, 443 00:17:02,390 --> 00:17:08,150 and Muslims cannot adopt or take the 444 00:17:04,670 --> 00:17:10,040 name.. Why go to all of this you know 445 00:17:08,150 --> 00:17:12,380 why would Prophet Muhammad even need to show 446 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:14,209 people? I mean we can't even 447 00:17:12,380 --> 00:17:15,470 adopt anymore, so why would you need to 448 00:17:14,209 --> 00:17:17,839 have this big 449 00:17:15,470 --> 00:17:18,610 hoopla about just so you 450 00:17:17,839 --> 00:17:20,650 should marry her 451 00:17:18,610 --> 00:17:21,939 so that you know no one will have any 452 00:17:20,650 --> 00:17:24,280 trouble,none of the believers would have 453 00:17:21,939 --> 00:17:26,620 trouble to marry their adopted son's 454 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:28,630 ex-wife. For the final revelation of God 455 00:17:26,620 --> 00:17:30,910 to include such a strange thing, 456 00:17:28,630 --> 00:17:32,980 doesn't it seem just seem 457 00:17:30,910 --> 00:17:35,170 troubling? Doesn't it seem strange that 458 00:17:32,980 --> 00:17:37,510 in the final revelation sent to 459 00:17:35,170 --> 00:17:41,350 mankind that you would need to include 460 00:17:37,510 --> 00:17:43,179 such a such a obscure rule? And 461 00:17:41,350 --> 00:17:46,090 isn't it troubling that this beautiful 462 00:17:43,179 --> 00:17:47,470 young lady that Prophet Muhammad liked, that 463 00:17:46,090 --> 00:17:50,200 he had to come up with moral 464 00:17:47,470 --> 00:17:52,150 justification to marry her from Allah? That 465 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:54,190 if it wasn't for this, he could never 466 00:17:52,150 --> 00:17:56,380 marry her and people would talk bad about 467 00:17:54,190 --> 00:17:58,120 him and say that look at this man he's 468 00:17:56,380 --> 00:17:59,740 marrying his daughter-in-law? 469 00:17:58,120 --> 00:18:01,900 I mean these are just some things to 470 00:17:59,740 --> 00:18:04,299 think about - I think I went a little bit 471 00:18:01,900 --> 00:18:07,299 longer than I wanted to. Thank you for 472 00:18:04,299 --> 00:18:09,970 watching, please subscribe to 473 00:18:07,299 --> 00:18:11,710 keep up with my other videos and as well 474 00:18:09,970 --> 00:18:16,720 please check out my other video - 475 00:18:11,710 --> 00:18:19,240 Muhammad's revelations that he received 476 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:24,720 for marrying his other wives (Muhammad: Allahs Favorite Prophet) 477 00:18:19,240 --> 00:18:24,720 Thank you very much! :)