If you prefer, you can continue reading my original one below, but the new one is far better
O Prophet, when you [Muslims] divorce women, divorce them for [the commencement of] their waiting period and keep count of the waiting period, and fear Allah , your Lord. Do not turn them out of their [husbands’] houses, nor should they [themselves] leave [during that period] unless they are committing a clear immorality. And those are the limits [set by] Allah . And whoever transgresses the limits of Allah has certainly wronged himself. You know not; perhaps Allah will bring about after that a [different] matter. (Surah Talaq, Quran 65)
If you don’t make me strawberry cheesecake in 5 minutes, you are divorced.
If someone knocks on the door and they are wearing a red shirt, you are divorced.
if you open this envelope, you are divorced.
And the permutations of this are endless. You can just look up on any popular QA site to see the strange divorces that people have uttered. This does not mean you should do such a wacky thing, but I’m just saying that if you do, its actually legit and is valid. Also, you can divorce her while she is pregnant or menstruating.
The first time this happens, and also the second time, he can “take her back” within 30 days by telling her “I am taking you back” or having sex with her.
After the first two times, the 3rd divorce is final and irrevocable. You cannot touch her after that, except it would be considered adultery. Except if she marries someone else, has sex with him, and then goes through the above process again, then you can marry her.
“And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband” [al-Baqarah 2:230]
There is a hadith that says one of the most hated things to Allah is divorce, which is not a saheeh (authentic) hadith but it does have some merit. It’s so permanent, yet it’s done so easily.
Now if the wife wants a divorce, this is a totally different story.
“Divorce is the right of the one who seizes the leg (i.e., consummates the marriage)” i.e., the husband.
(Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 2081; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 2041).
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce with no reason, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.” Narrated by Ahmad (21874), Abu Dawood (2226) and al-Tirmidhi (1187); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (2035).
“And it is not lawful for you (men) to take back (from your wives) any of your Mahr (bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) which you have given them, except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allaah (e.g. to deal with each other on a fair basis). Then if you fear that they would not be able to keep the limits ordained by Allaah, then there is no sin on either of them if she gives back (the Mahr or a part of it) for her Al-Khul‘ (divorce)” (Surah Baqara, Quran 2:229)
The wife of Thaabit ibn Qays ibn Shammaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I do not find any fault with Thaabit ibn Qays in his character or his religious commitment, but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to her, “Will you give back his garden?” Because he had given her a garden as her mahr. She said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Thaabit: “Take back your garden, and divorce her.”
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5273).